Feeling Sad?

We are human beings, feeling sad, grief and being upset is part of our nature. There is not a single person in this world who has never felt it, it's only natural that we feel sad when we encounter some kind of loss, such as money, health, or loss of a loved one. We usually get upset or depressed whenever things don't go according to plan. The kind of education we want to achieve, the certain kind of job we want, the amount of money we want to make, the cars we would like to drive,the type of house we want to live in, the kind of spouses we want and so on. But, what do we often do when we don't accomplish these things? We get upset, frustrated and even angry at times for not getting what we want. 

We tend to think it's all in our hands and get angry, disappointed and upset when things don't go the way we want it to but, what we don't realize is that it is all in fact in Allah's hands and not ours. We don't realize that all the things we run after are all weak and temporary, none of those things are permanent and ever lasting. Even a house that is made of brick that lasts for decades can turn to dust if an earthquake or a tornado strikes. We might get fired tomorrow from the job we have today. We could even lose all the money we have today. We could lose the body we work so hard to maintain if caught with an illness today and none of it are in our control.

Similarly, if your happiness is defined by and attached to people, remember that it is temporary because people are only meant to be on this earth for a limited time which means the thing or the person that your happiness relies on is also temporary. Also, that people will disappoint you at some point and none of it will be in your control, they'll hurt you, disappoint you, even the person you love the most in this world will hurt you because people are not perfect or perhaps you will encounter a certain situation where you won't be able to be with them anymore. And this all this in fact will be Allah's way of testing you, for sure Allah will test you by reversing your situation.

"And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives" (2:155)

At this point, if your faith, prayers and you relationship with the Qur'an is not strong enough, your sadness will have the power to destroy you, simply because you have lost focus from the reality that the entire world and everything in it is temporary and we are here only to be tested by Allah. 

So how do we deal with this? How do we fight sadness and depression and not get upset?